The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting

The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting By AliceMiller Andrew Jenkins, The Body Never Lies The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting Never before has world renowned psychoanalyst Alice Miller examined so persuasively the long range consequences of childhood abuse on the body Using the experiences of her patients along with the biog
  • Title: The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting
  • Author: AliceMiller Andrew Jenkins
  • ISBN: 9780393328639
  • Page: 320
  • Format: Paperback
  • The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting By AliceMiller Andrew Jenkins, Never before has world renowned psychoanalyst Alice Miller examined so persuasively the long range consequences of childhood abuse on the body Using the experiences of her patients along with the biographical stories of literary giants such as Virginia Woolf, Franz Kafka, and Marcel Proust, Miller shows how a child s humiliation, impotence, and bottled rage will manifestNever before has world renowned psychoanalyst Alice Miller examined so persuasively the long range consequences of childhood abuse on the body Using the experiences of her patients along with the biographical stories of literary giants such as Virginia Woolf, Franz Kafka, and Marcel Proust, Miller shows how a child s humiliation, impotence, and bottled rage will manifest itself as adult illness be it cancer, stroke, or other debilitating diseases Never one to shy away from controversy, Miller urges society as a whole to jettison its belief in the Fourth Commandment and not to extend forgiveness to parents whose tyrannical childrearing methods have resulted in unhappy, and often ruined, adult lives In this empowering work, writes Rutgers professor Philip Greven, readers will learn how to confront the overt and covert traumas of their own childhoods with the enlightened guidance of Alice Miller.
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    1. AliceMiller Andrew Jenkins

      Librarian Note There is than one author by this name in the database.Psychologist and world renowned author, who is noted for her books on child abuse, translated in several languages In her books she departed from psychoanalysis charging it with being similar to the poisonous pedagogies, which she described in For Your Own Good Miller was born in Poland and as young woman lived in Warshaw where she survived World War II In 1953 she gained her doctorate in philosophy, psychology and sociology at University of Basel in Switzerland For the next 20 years Miller studied and practiced psychoanalysis Her first three books originated from research she took upon herself as a response to what she felt were major blind spots in her field However, by the time her fourth book was published, she no longer believed that psychoanalysis was viable in any respect Miller extended trauma model to include all forms of child abuse, including those that were commonly accepted such as spanking , which she called poisonous pedagogy, a non literal translation of Katharina Rutschky s Schwarze P dagogik black or dark pedagogy Drawing upon the work of psychohistory, Miller analyzed writers Virginia Woolf, Franz Kafka and others to find links between their childhood traumas and the course and outcome of their lives.In 1979, she stopped practicing as a psychoanalyst after having studied and practiced psychoanalysis for 20 years and became critical of both Freud and Carl Jung She has continued to write and lecture on psychological issues Her most recent book, Pictures of My Life, was published in 2006 an informal autobiography in which the writer explores her emotional process from painful childhood, through the development of her theories and later insights, told via the display and discussion of 66 of her original paintings, painted in the years 1973 to 2005.She died in April 14th 2010 in Saint R my de Provence, France.

    133 thoughts on “The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting”

    1. The author spends a lot of time arguing that the commandment to honor thy parents causes a lot of harm, especially to children whose parents were abusive in one way or another I ve known several abuse survivors, some of whom still question themselves as to whether it really happened, or if it could have been as bad as they remember, or have spent a lot of time finding excuses for their parents In that sense, I think this book could be useful for affirming those experiences and allowing healing.O [...]

    2. Eh Maybe my hopes were too high after being so enad of The Drama of the Gifted Child The thesis is one that I whole heartedly subscribe to the mind body connection is clearly illustrated in both my personal and professional life.However, I found the initial part of the book weak and dull that she beats the reader to the punch by pronouncing the impotence of the presented material connecting physical ailments of historical figures to their emotional loose ends from childhood does nothing to empow [...]

    3. This book is part illuminating, part reductive in its repetition Always brave.This isn t my favorite of Alice Miller s books, but I love her for writing it.

    4. This book is amazing in its power to enable people, to shift the stuck I found the descriptions of people who stop eating and get diagnosed with anorexia or bulimia, make sense than anything I ve read on this topic The idea of desperately trying to find nutrition metaphorically yes This is the second book of Alice Miller s I have read Now, I have to read her entire shelf.The body never lies Ultimately the body will rebel, even if it has temporarily been pacified with the help of drugs, nicotine [...]

    5. The belief that our repressed emotions can cause physical ailments is nothing new What Miller offers that feels groundbreaking is this children of abusers need not forgive their parent s in order to be free of the pain and damage As a therapist Miller feels her profession too often preaches the typical morality of honor thy parents and finds that most counselors believe forgiveness is key to the patient being able to move on Miller instead believes a therapist should become an enlightened witnes [...]

    6. Ihr Revoluzzertum ist erfrischend und ihre Thesen vermutlich nah an der Wirklichkeit, aber die empirische Methode grenzt ans esoterisch Naive und ich musste stellenweise schnell dr berbl ttern Jemand f hlte sich als Kind nicht geliebt und bekam sp ter Krebs, Tuberkulose oder starb fr h Klarer Beweis f r die These, dass alles bel der Welt aus Kinderherzen stammt Das ganze noch berwiegend anhand der Biographien ber hmter Autoren Kafka Nietzsche , deren Details ohnehin schon durch eine Deutungsmasc [...]

    7. Interesting and validating Occaisionally she goes slightly over the top and draws conclusions I found a bit of a stretch Also it can be repetetive, but I think that was on purpose, since the resistence to these ideas was part of the point I m glad this book was written, I think it s important.

    8. Alice Miller, author of the cult book for children who had to act as parents to their own The drama of the gifted child , here tackles the mind body connection, which reacts loudly when we try to love our parents even if we suffered neglect and abuse at their hands She talks about everything from pure, brutal abuse, to casual slaps now and then, and the most undetectable kind of neglect denying the child its own feelings, needs and desires without truly listening She demonstrates her ideas by an [...]

    9. A very interesting read about how child abuse of any form is stored within the body and either results in the child becoming an abusive adult or an adult suffering from various mental and health problems Because society teaches us to love our parents the 4th commandment we are unable to express our hate, hurt or whatever negative emotion we have towards our parents and end up suffering or letting others suffer Whilst I don t agree with everything she says I think it will show the reader a few si [...]

    10. Desde que estoy en psicoan lisis y puedo pensar en los momentos que he enfermado y las circunstancias que han envuelto esos momentos en mi vida, encuentro que existe una gran relaci n entre el sufrimiento emocional ps quico reprimido, y su v lvula de escape el cuerpo Alice Miller contin a con lo le do en El drama del ni o dotado que creo que es la base de sus otros libros , y ejemplifica cu les son las consecuencias f sicas de las emociones reprimidas en la infancia, que arrastramos dentro de no [...]

    11. This is a must read for therapists and people in any kind of realtional or attatchment based therapy I found this book fantastic as a help tool for people in my practice who are dealing with issues around abusive parents or trauma It gives one the courage to look at the bonds of parenthood and question the realationships with parents who have been cruel or abusive I loved it.

    12. Yetenekli ocuk un Dram n okuduktan sonra ayn felsefenin devam nda Miller n d ncesinin nas l geli ti ini g rmek iyi geldi Ayr ca kendimle ilgili ok eyi anlamama, alg lamama ve davran lar m yeniden g zden ge irmeme yarad Okuyunca boyum bir kar uzad m desem ne desem, en az ndan baz sorular, a k u lu gariplikler yerine oturdu.

    13. Beden bu Ger e i hi saklayabilir mi hi Ruh yle mi Derinlerde tutar, bilinmesin ister, bilmesin bu bedenin sahibi Saklad n z her ey nas l bir g n g n y z ne k yorsa, bedeniniz de asla yalan s yleyemez Yalan s ylemek istemiyor ve ger e in pe inden gitmek istiyorsan z yol haritan z Alice Miller dan geliyor.

    14. A good read for anyone who is working on themselves and their childhood Gives you a good lens to view things differently.

    15. BrilliantProvides simple and powerful insights on what the body communicates in distress and internal conflict situations

    16. I was inspired by the information contained within this book I think the main reason is because it was a bit off the beaten track Or maybe a lot Going the other way I liked the advice that considers the fourth commandment regarding respect towards your parents and forgiveness to them regardless of what is done to you The fact is that those of us who were treated badly as children whether we were physically sexually or emotionally abused or not paid attention to and neglected have been greatly af [...]

    17. Kronikle mi bedensel rahats zl klar n ki inin ocukluk d neminde ebeveynlerinden g rd fiziksel ya da duygusal istismar n zerini rtme abas ndan kaynakland n ne s ren bir kitapt Aralar nda Dostoyevski, Virginia Woolf, Arthur Rimbaud, Yukio Mi ima ve Marcel Proust un da bulundu u nl air ve yazarlar n ya amlar ndan sunulan kesitlerle ki inin kendisinin de fark nda olamay y z nden bask lad bu t rden istismar s re lerinin hayat n n ilerleyen k s mlar nda bedeni, ruhu ve d nceleri zerinde nas l bir etki [...]

    18. While there are points I disagree with namely the take on Virginia Woolf s life, where being in the crux of WWII and being much than her mental health suffering a socialite and a clever, humorous, intelligent, creative human being were not taken into account but that aside, Miller makes groundbreaking points on the unconscious prescription of the Fourth Commandment, which prescribes the performance of a false self from the formative social and emotional conditioning in upbringing Miller links t [...]

    19. Over the course of my life, I ve had illnesses than I can count From being poisoned as a small child which is conveniently labelled Munchhausen by proxy for the female terrorist who did it to me of course, the poor female could not help herself , to rapidly putting on weight in my adolescence after being brainwashed into believing I was fat and ugly and disgusting from the earliest age possible , the list goes on Reading this, as well as Andrew Vachss s article You carry the cure in your own he [...]

    20. This is a bad book.Don t get me wrong the idea itself, that your body will get ill if you don t respect youe needs and emotions, that the morality of respecring your parents often hinders your journey to health and truth with this I agree.But is is so poorly written The author derives stories about artists from single sentences with not much evidence whatsoever for a scientist, and the author, as a psychologist is in fact a scientist, is outrageous She interprets everything in favour of her theo [...]

    21. Un bon livre pour commencer mettre les pieds dans le plat dans les profondeurs de nos conditionnements Histoire de commencer s clabousser de bon sens et de v rit s profondes Le 4 me commandement, son pouvoir et ses vices Certaines choses peuvent nos sembler couler de sources, mais pour certaines il est toujours bienvenu de prendre du recul Un tr s bon et pertinent livre d Alice Miller.

    22. Very interesting read, I read to help patients of mine In some ways extreme in her approach, however it is a very good read for people who have suffered from physical, mental or sexual abuse A way to allow yourself to feel the pain anger about what you have suffered at the hands of your parents.

    23. Muy interesante, al final me he convencido del argumento principal y definitivamente ha impactado en mi, en mi comprensi n de la crianza y en mi comprensi n de la infancia de las personas, detalles que antes hubiera pasado por alto ahora me llaman mucho la atenci n.

    24. It s one of the best books I have read Alice Miller is a great psychologist that has managed to discover one of the biggest problems of humanity with an insight that is difficult to get I love it.

    25. The 2 stars are for the main point of this book that it doesn t bring any good trying to honour parents who abused you and that the notion that you can only find peace through forgiveness is harmful Other than that,it was all over the place and preposterous at times Using deceased writers as examples claiming their illnesses that caused their death was directly caused by their parents mistreatment of them It all got a bit too crazy for me when she writes a fictitious diary of one of her patients [...]

    26. Este libro se resume No estamos obligados a sentir afecto por quienes nos han hecho da o a n siendo nuestros padres es v lido no sentir afecto alguno y mucho menos gratitud por el simple hecho de traernos al mundo El 4to mandamiento y las sociedad nos manipula a vivir condenados a siempre respetar y perdonar cosas que hagan nuestros padres, arrastrando una culpabilidad por todo lo que nos pasa y no defendernos ante el maltrato f sico y psic logo de nuestros padres.

    27. Alice Miller, Psychoanalytikerin, Lehrende und Autorin, schreibt in Der Revolte des K rpers ber den Zusammenhang von k rperliche Krankheiten und als Kind erfahrenenen psychischen Verletzungen, die verdr ngt wurden und die sich ber den K rper bemerkbar machen Sie verkn pft das mit der herrschenden moralischen Vorstellung, dass wir unsere Eltern lieben m ssen und ihnen zugef gtes Leid irgendwann vergeben m ssen, damit die Seele heilen kann Sie positioniert sich ganz eindr cklich gegen diesen Liebe [...]

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